I don't know if there are many of you out there reading this, but if you are, please use the comments section below (you can do so anonymously) to answer to the following question:
If you are invited to a wedding but you do not go, do you still have to send a gift?
If you answer anonymously, please identify yourself as male or female.
Thanks! You may be the person who saves my marriage!
Hey Jamie Beth,
ReplyDeleteI've had your blog on my blog-reader for a while, and I have been enjoying keeping up with your life, now that you're no longer in the Davidson office ready to answer my questions about course requirements :)
Here's my opinion - I don't typically send a gift when I'm not going to the wedding, but I think that is because I feel like I am a broke graduate student, and I usually think about the fact that I probably should send a gift. So perhaps it depends on how financially comfortable you are right now, and how guilty you'll feel if you don't send a gift! :)
So basically, I know that this wishy-washy answer won't save your own marriage :) but at least you know that you're in good company whether or not you decide to send the gift!
yeah, i think you send a gift. a smaller gift maybe, but still something. if you were truly broke, i would say no, just a nice card.
ReplyDeletealso, i guess it depends on your relationship with the peeps getting married. 3rd cousins twice removed that you don't really know? maybe no gift. good friends, and you really wish you could be there? send a gift.
is mr. sam saying you don't have to send a gift, or you?
Yes, send a gift. Or, if you are truly broke, send a card with a heartfelt message.
ReplyDeleteWhose daughter are you?!? Of course you SHOULD send a gift. If you don't know the bride and/or groom very well, or at all, it can be something inexpensive like a picture frame.
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and there you have it!
ReplyDeletethank you to those of you who wrote in. it's good to know you are out there!
and really, my mom's comment sums it up for me and speaks to a larger issue in all relationships: you grow up thinking that what you do in your family, what you've been taught, is "the way it is," or "the right way."
i was raised to send a gift to a wedding. whether you were GOING to the wedding or not was immaterial. SMS was not raised that way. it doesn't mean what he does is wrong and what i do is right (even though sometimes it feels that way, sorry, it just does, i can't help it!) -- it's just different.
as we figure out how to "do" this whole marriage thing we'll have to figure out what we do because we've always done something that way or what we do because it makes sense for us.
thanks for helping out!
had to respond to this one! you asked do you still have to send a gift? well you don't have to but if you are driven by guilt (thanks mom!) then you will send a gift. or if you don't want someone to be mad (again guilt) you send one.
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